Tuesday, September 28, 2010

Things NOT to ask adoptive parents.....

I saw this post today on another blog and just had to share it. Yes, we have been asked many of these questions. Not only are thy inappropriate, they are hurtful. I know most people mean no harm but it can be very frustrating. I LOVE to talk about adoption, especially with those who are genuinely interested. However, I don't like being asked silly questions by total strangers, especially in front of my children.

As adoptive parents to children with special needs, it seems that the questions are even more inappropriate. If I don't know you personally, it isn't your business. End of discussion.

There are some things that I know for sure. I know that we are blessed with three amazing children. I know that adoption is a miracle! I know that our children were meant to be in our family. I know that all of the years struggling with infertility, all of the tears, all of the fear and worry that we would never be parents, all of the heartache and pain and agony -- it was all worth it. These children, these amazing children, are ours in every sense of the word. No, they are not flesh of my flesh or bone of my bone but they are miraculously my own. No, they didn't grow under my heart. But they grew in it. I can not imagine our lives without these incredible children. I am truly blessed to be their mother.

1 comment:

CeAnne said...

People say some dumb things without using their brains. Seems like we had a couple stupid comments during raising money for our two boys like 'If you can't afford it why are you adopting?' Um we are working to have the money... people usually work to earn something?

And then tons of comments about why we were adopting internationally vs domestic and our decision for a closed adoption. Most people just want to nag without letting you have the time to explain and maybe open their minds a bit! For heaven sakes we are taking these kids in and giving them a home why can't they just be glad they have a family! Any how, indeed miraculously our own!